TweetI’m leaving Facebook. And probably not for the reason you’d expect.
I feel like it gives us all the perceptions that we’re all close, but, in reality, we’re not.
We read up on each others’ posts, so we feel like we know what’s going on in each others’ lives. But we rarely actually talk about anything. It has become a space to show off. We only post things we’re proud of, or things we think are clever. We’re advertising ourselves to our “friends.”
That’s pretty unhealthy on its own. We are the generation of boosting our own egos. Don’t believe me? Listen to today’s popular music.
But even worse, we ignore a large part of each others’ lives, the part that we actually need friends for: our stuggles. I’ve never had a real, deep conversation on Facebook. It just isn’t the tool for that. But because we see such positive updates about each other, we assume everything is fine, and we don’t end up talking about the things we don’t necessarily want everyone to know about.
So I’m leaving. I’m not a difficult person to reach. I email, tweet, blog, speak via telephones (voice and text), and I can even handwrite letters. So, friends: Don’t be strangers.
And maybe I’ll be back. How kind of Facebook it is to give me 14 days to make this decision.
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August 3, 2012 at 1:31 am
Welcome to the life of the faceless.
August 3, 2012 at 7:29 am
I like your handwritten letters
When I get a new IPhone, can we Facetime? Love you brother!
August 3, 2012 at 10:31 am
Of course, if we both have iPhones. But you know me with phones… We can certainly Skype. Love you sis
August 3, 2012 at 5:06 pm
I will be writing you handwritten letters lol
August 4, 2012 at 3:16 am
Looking forward to them
August 6, 2012 at 2:48 pm
I’m with you Kevin. Now if I can figure out how to get back off of Facebook!
October 5, 2012 at 5:14 am
I googled: “I’m leaving facebook”, just so I could see if anyone has left Facebook for the same reasons as me. This post describes the reality of Facebook and my reasoning behind leaving. I’m a very personal type of person and it bothers me to share your “life” publicly or at least the public version we want to display to the world, ignoring the fact that real struggles do exist. In the end it feels more draining than helpful. I’ve come to realize that Facebook is more of a social media site to “save face” than to actually form or maintain relationships. Most likely, the people that want to be a part of your life already are, but for those who just want to get to know you better Facebook is certainly not the place to find those answers.